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Sheryl Sandberg offers some advice based on experience on raising kids after the loss of a spouse. She points to this concept called "mattering" in sociology, that is important in helping children build resilience. It begins with the parent showing that the child matters and is important, and creating a nurturing environment where the child feels that she is important for the world around her, that she matters, and that people care for him or her, and also rely on the child. Children feel emotions while growing up and in daily interactions at school and social life, and this includes negative emotions that can bring them down. It is important to have these coping skills and feel strong at that time to deal with these emotions and situations that give rise to a range of emotions, some even with destructive tendencies. The coping also includes keeping memories of the missing parent alive through videos and audio with memories of the missing parent.